Posted by Anneke on December 13, 2005, at 12:30:13
In reply to Seemingly simple things which are so very hard..., posted by jammerlich on December 13, 2005, at 3:26:55
Dear Jammerlich,
I'm new here, so I don't know all of your story, but it sounds like things ended badly and without resolution. The main thing I hear in your post is pain and unresolved grief and the fact that it is still so raw after almost a year speaks volumes. And, I understand how it can still be so fresh....my first therapist and I had to terminate due to her moving and although we did everything "right" it was incredibly hard because I wasn't finished and the timing wasn't on my terms. I tried to convince myself that I was done with therapy, but ended up going back to it with another therapist. Anyway, I say that only because I can't imagine the pain that would come with being "dumped" by a therapist.
All of that being said, I'm not sure what the best route is to take. Have you considered starting therapy with another therapist? I don't think that a Christmas card is a bad idea, but I also kind of believe in shooting straight, so if you're looking to go back into therapy with her, I'd probably tend to call her office to make an appointment or e-mail her or write to her. I understand that the Christmas card could be a kind of "testing the waters", but if she doesn't respond, you still don't really know what that means. It could mean she thinks you were simply sending a card. It could mean she'd be open to continuing therapy, but wants you to directly ask for that. Or it could mean that she's clueless and not the right therapist for you :)
In any case, I'm sorry you're in so much pain over this.....the things that bring us into therapy are painful enough without the added pains of conflict with our therapist.
Anneke
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