Posted by Anneke on December 13, 2005, at 12:17:08
In reply to Unmotivated but happy. A kind of depression?, posted by Alara3 on December 13, 2005, at 9:09:19
First of all, congratulations on your baby....and don't underestimate the demands of new motherhood. I know of plenty of moms (myself included) who had trouble just getting a shower and clean clothes on when their kids were babies. And as far as what the infamous "other mothers" are accomplishing, don't believe everything you hear.
My main question is how your current state of being differs from prior to having the baby. I know I found the lack of routine hard once I started staying home. And, the lack of tangible "proof" that I was working hard all day was hard to take too. It's not like you can point to a pile of papers neatly filed on your desk. But, the fact that you're raising a happy, healthy baby is work! Does your partner help you when he is home? How are you communicting with one another? Becoming parents is stressful to any relationship.
I agree that a group for new mothers might be helpful, if you're into that kind of thing. I know it was a lifesaver for me in the early days of motherhood. Sometimes it takes a while to find moms with whom you "click".
As far as what your motivation is....I guess I'd say that beautiful, smiling little girl! And,the fact that you deserve to feel good and alive and fulfilled.
Hope this makes some sense....my three year old is sitting on my lap as I post, so I'm not at my best, but I wanted to respond.
Keep posting and welcome to Babble....Anneke
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