Posted by allisonross on December 11, 2005, at 7:40:28
In reply to Re: Will my words diminish dreams ,spirits of another? » Gabbix2, posted by one woman cine on December 10, 2005, at 23:20:51
Just a little aside; perhaps (if you wish), this will give you a little insight as to who I am (crazy person, LOL)
I've performed 3 acts of "restorative justice"---This is what you did...this is how it made me feel. My t gave me those words---they were the best gift I ever received. So empowering to someone abused for a lifetime
1. GOt a divorce...this was saying; I refuse to be abused any longer. Took me a loooong time but I got there.
2. I flew to another state alone, and confronted someone who did something horrific to me.
3. When my church kicked me out, I stood up in frnt of the whole congregation (they did this to me on my birthday; put my name up on a screen, followed by the words: Conduct Unbecoming A child of God)
I said: Wow, I didn't think this many people would show up to help me celebrate my birthday." They were grim as a heart attack, I was smiling and joking. I then read my little speech.
I then waited 2 years and wrote to every person in that church (more restorative justice); cost me 60 dollars in postage.
I then wrote to the pastor, requesting compensation for what I had to spend in therapy. My intention was to share the compensation with the 2 women, who because of his "counseling" skills, wanted to commit suicide...
.after a year I received a check; just a mere pathetic token, but I believe in standing up for my principles, no matter how scary.
Guess there is a #4:
My t did something that upset me, and I confronted him on it. He said: "You felt disrespected, etc.." I said yes, and explained it.
So, thatz me, in a nut (really..a nut!) shell!
Smiles, Ally
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