Posted by rainbowbrite on November 25, 2005, at 10:58:54
In reply to Re: family and the holidays and therapists, posted by daisym on November 24, 2005, at 17:22:54
> I think therapist tend to encourage self protection and standing up for what we need/want.
Thats true
>Often families bring out all the stuff we are working on and make us revert to old coping behaviors. I think most of them know that we can't live our lives isolated and in a vacuum from our families. But depending on what we are telling them, and how strong we feel, encouraging avoidance might be a therapist's way of supporting you to take care of yourself.
>you're right. If I was saying other things then yes the advice would be differnet. But I think back back now and Im like, would they really advise their kid to boycott church at christmas. But I see what you mean, its about teaching us to protect ourselves. I guess its the battles that were chosen at the time look so silly now.
> But I know what you mean about the "please accomodate me" feeling. I never think that I should just announce that I don't want to do such and so this way or that way. But you know what? If a family member had a special need or felt strongly about something, I'd most likely have no problem accomodating them. So why don't I think they'll do it for me?
Oh I would too, I guess Im thinking about stupid teen stuff. But good point, Im not sure how I would handle it if I was really depressed or something. I suppose Id hide it.
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> I used to love this time of year too. It isn't family stuff that gets me, it is the amount of energy it takes to do everything. If I could go to the energy store and buy a bunch for Christmas, I think I'd find joy in the Holidays again.
>Yes, it is an exhausting time. I love the family stuff and all the parties. You get to really appreciate each other. I hope you find joy again, but it really can be a tiring time.
> I hope you are having a nice Thanksgiving.
You too!
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