Posted by daisym on November 24, 2005, at 17:22:54
In reply to family and the holidays and therapists, posted by rainbowbrite on November 24, 2005, at 15:29:40
I think therapist tend to encourage self protection and standing up for what we need/want. Often families bring out all the stuff we are working on and make us revert to old coping behaviors. I think most of them know that we can't live our lives isolated and in a vacuum from our families. But depending on what we are telling them, and how strong we feel, encouraging avoidance might be a therapist's way of supporting you to take care of yourself.
But I know what you mean about the "please accomodate me" feeling. I never think that I should just announce that I don't want to do such and so this way or that way. But you know what? If a family member had a special need or felt strongly about something, I'd most likely have no problem accomodating them. So why don't I think they'll do it for me?
I used to love this time of year too. It isn't family stuff that gets me, it is the amount of energy it takes to do everything. If I could go to the energy store and buy a bunch for Christmas, I think I'd find joy in the Holidays again.
I hope you are having a nice Thanksgiving.
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