Posted by Blossom on October 12, 2005, at 20:05:11
In reply to Re: Need advice about friendship with former therapist » orchid, posted by orchid on October 12, 2005, at 13:33:19
Hi orchid,
> How would you feel though, in case your T stops all contact abruptly with you? For some consideration like ethical issues etc? I think that will be devastating for you?
At this point, I don't think this would be nearly as devastating as it would have been six months ago, as long as he does it properly and explains his reasons.
Right now, I email him from time to time, and he only answers about half the time. I don't take it personally. It's just the way things are. I actually learned that back in therapy with him too. Sometimes, he'd come in and be kinda grumpy, and I'd find out that there was something else going on, and it had nothing to do with me. I think that getting to the point where I could see things that way was part of the emotional healing process for me.
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> So in view of all that, real friendship may never be possible. But limited social contact and mild friendship would definitely be possible - but don't over do it.Yeah, maybe. It is definitely not your normal friendship, because there are all these rules and expectations, and prior history involved.
Blossom
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