Posted by Shortelise on September 30, 2005, at 1:07:43
In reply to My fiance, therapy and more, posted by messadivoce on September 30, 2005, at 0:47:42
I would think that the most important thing in this is that he understands that he may not always understand your needs, but he needs to respect them even if he doesn't understand them.
If you feel you want to go back into therapy at some point, that is your decision, and you are competent to make it. It would be terrible for it to be a subject of contention in your relationship.
Voce, I sincerely hope you'll deal with this on a "deeper level". If he is dead set against, say, extra-marital affairs or swinging, well, I don't see a problem. If he is dead set against something you know you are going to need in the future, then I see trouble in paradise.
I know he's not a bad guy, but sometimes in our relationships we are protective to a point of trying to control the other person, for their own good.
Ok, I am pounding my point now, so I'll stop.
ShortE
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