Posted by ButterflyHigh on September 24, 2005, at 11:21:18
In reply to Re: Countertransference maintained How? » ButterflyHigh, posted by crushedout on September 24, 2005, at 10:15:37
no, actually I meant countertransference. My feelings towards therapist. (I know, even though the psychological definition is the opposite) dopes that help understand my question better? If not, let me know, not sure I can put it a better way - sorry.
What I meant by maintaining it, is how can I not become dependent upon this therapist due to the fact I wish she was my friend? She even, in sessions, says, "my friend..." to me, her lingo I guess. Bingo - I want to keep it under control both ways. Last session I talked openly about sex with a new guy I'm dating, and she didn't
really keep it in perspective so much per say. Her reaction after I said, "I need to think about what I'm doing", was "Yes you do" - then the subject was quickly changed. It really isn't that much of a difficulty, she has an email addy, and I've emailed her about two things so far. This therapist doesn't seem to coax anything out of me, well, I shouldn't say that, when I talk, she'll listen so well, then look at me intently to see what comes next out of my mouth. Not sure I can say 'anything' in therapy now. She can be flippant, but overall she seems helpful and knowledgeable. I felt I could say anything up until I told her about this issue, now I kinda feel awkward but I'm sure it will pass.
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