Posted by crushedout on September 24, 2005, at 10:15:37
In reply to Countertransference maintained How?, posted by ButterflyHigh on September 24, 2005, at 2:37:12
I think you mean transference. Countertransference is the name for what the T feels toward you.What do you mean by "maintain" it? You want to keep it? Or you want to keep it under control?
I think the best thing to do is to talk about it openly with your T. If he or she is good, he or she will help you to put it in perspective.
This can be very difficult and embarrassing, but take it from someone who suffered terribly from transference for several years: it is CRUCIAL. If you don't, you will likely be wasting a lot of time and money and will pay for it for years to come in emotional debt. So I urge you to try to overcome your difficulty.
You can start by telling your T it's something embarrassing you have to talk about and then he or she should help to coax it out of you, and assure you that you can say ANYTHING you want in therapy (it's true! i know, it's hard for me to believe also).
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