Posted by alexandra_k on September 22, 2005, at 15:46:01
In reply to Re: Need Advice » alexandra_k, posted by cricket on September 22, 2005, at 12:24:14
> That is it exactly. Little battle SAY, DON'T SAY, SAY LIKE THIS, NO SAY LIKE THAT, NO DON'T SAY AT ALL, THINK OF SOMETHING ELSE QUICK
> Then I retreat into silence and he says "What are you thinking right now?"Maybe you could tell him a little about the inner battles? Just enough so that when he asks you what you are thinking you can say that that is what is going on?
What I find...
Is that it can be hard to get the balance between me directing the session and the therapist directing the session. Sometimes... I wish they could just direct me. Othertimes... I have stuff I want to say / talk about. But I guess in general I need some kind of middle way. Open ended questions can be good but not if they are too general. I know the point is supposed to be in how I choose to interpret the question but I need them to clarify. If there isn't enough direction then my mind just kind of ranges over all kinds of stuff... And I'm sitting there going 'what do you *mean*? I don't understand what you mean'.
> He asked last session if I felt like his questions put more pressure on me. I said no, questions help sometimes.
Yeah. I guess it depends on the question.
> > But it gets easier the more they do respond non-judgementally and sympathetically.
> I hope so.:-)
Yeah. I think it does.
Though I also find that things can get a bit harder when I realise that I really care what they think of me and then I get afraid about telling them stuff. But I guess that is something to be worked through...
:-)
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