Posted by alexandra_k on September 21, 2005, at 21:25:26
In reply to Need Advice, posted by cricket on September 21, 2005, at 13:27:30
> “But therapy is the one thing that you can’t do with a gun to your head. You have to be relaxed enough in here, comfortable enough just to talk. Let what comes come. Say what you want to say. I don’t write the script.”
> “Yeah, well I think you have a hidden one that you check from time to time and I’m not following it.”
> Then he got clever again. “Think about how it is with (he named an alter). You have a special place where you talk to her. You go there regularly. Sometimes you talk, sometimes she just tells you images, sometimes you’re just quiet with her, right? But nothing is forced. And it just happens. I want this to be like that.”
> That brought tears to my eyes because for the first time I saw that it might be possible for therapy to be something other than excruciatingly painful. And I was also so glad that he didn’t say well you used to talk to your grandmother when you were 3That sounds really great
(scarey of course)
But really really great
I think that is what it is supposed to be about...
Being able to talk about all those things you think that there is no way in the world that you could ever say to another human being (hell, that you can't even admit to yourself)
And that not being judged for that...
Is what can be so healing.Thats where I struggle with therapy at the moment.
I can think of stuff to say
But I can't bring myself to say it.
And so its not something that just changes
It is more that there is a little battle that goes on inside of us everytime something occurs to us to say
And we struggle with whether to say it or not
But it gets easier the more they do respond non-judgementally and sympathetically.You are doing so well
I am so proud of you for not running
You really have come a long way in the last month :-)
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