Posted by Annierose on September 20, 2005, at 16:57:23
In reply to My T. is Too Important To Me, posted by 10derHeart on September 20, 2005, at 16:14:07
10der -
11 years is a long time away. Try not to get ahead of yourself. I just recently had a similar conversation with my T. Termination is not an immediate concern or decision, so try not to anticipate how you might or might not feel years ahead.I do think it's appropriate to feel close with your T. This person holds us emotionally. To me, my T cares about me in a way no one else has before, in a maternal sense (although she is not even 10 years older than I). Interesting enough, the more I share my longings with her, the less needy I have been. It's so darn hard to be so exposed, but babble has helped me bare all (so to speak).
So the more you are able to talk about those hard feelings, the more it will help you in the long term. I go 3x per week, so I don't have to wait so long inbetween sessions. For me, that is so helpful. If an icky topic comes up, it will only be a few days before we can continue.
I think it's a good thing, your feelings for your T. It shows you have the capacity for a long term caring relationship (IMO). And your T has shown you that sharing those feelings is okay, he hasn't freaked out or made you feel uncomfortable. That's great.
Vacations can be hard. We're here for you in the meantime.
Annie
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