Posted by B2chica on September 20, 2005, at 10:27:02
In reply to Re: stress **potential trigger* » B2chica, posted by Tamar on September 20, 2005, at 9:50:01
> Wow B2C, I think it’s great that you had the courage to tell your mother you weren’t going.
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> Was cutting a way of punishing yourself for standing up to her? Or was it a way of handling your guilt? Either way, don’t be too hard on yourself. It’s hard to say no; it takes practice.
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> Are you able to focus on the relief you feel at not having to go? Are you able to feel a little bit proud of your strength in being able to say no?
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> I’m sorry you’re hurting. I hope you start to feel better soon and that you start to feel the benefits of standing up for yourself.
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> Tamar
thanx for the props tamar.
i don't feel guilty for standing my ground with her, but i feel guilty all around. i think i cut cuz of guilt. it's weird cuz if she's in one of her angry moods i have no problem standing up to her, but her guilt/tears gets to me and i HATE that!
it's hard to change patterns. and it doesn't help at ALL that she lives within a mile from our house.
i do feel good that i called and said no.
one less pressure for me this weekend.
thanks
b2c.
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