Posted by happyflower on September 11, 2005, at 18:20:52
In reply to *Trigger* Why crying isn't okay *Trigger*, posted by jammerlich on September 11, 2005, at 16:07:00
Yeah, if I cried as a child even during physical abuse, my mother would hit me harder and longer. She threated to kill me if I ever told my dad about the beatings. Sometimes I was beat for no reason at all(not that there is any reason for a beating) and I learned not to cry to get it over with faster.
It was so sad as adult about 12 years ago, when my grandpa died and I was his funeral and I was overcomed with tears and no one offered comfort, even my dad (which i guess doesn't surprise me) I am just glad my mom wasn't there or who know what she would have done. But as an adult if she tried to lay a hand on me, she would regret that she ever touched me. But as a child I was helpless and trapped. Yes, I was trained not to cry or something worse would happen. I only cry in front of my DH and sometimes my kids, because I know I am safe.
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