Posted by daisym on September 10, 2005, at 16:02:33
In reply to Re: Talking about sex (again!), posted by fairywings on September 10, 2005, at 9:06:58
I strongly suspect that the physical aspects have nothing to do with attraction in therapy, unless they are gorgeous from the beginning. Women get attracted to women who aren't gay, so go figure.
As far as pushing through...be careful. I wanted to do this so badly that I flooded myself emotionally. I told my therapist that I would take a week off and just "work" out all the memories and feelings and tears and be done with it. I damn near ended up in a padded room incoherent and I was so suicidal it was scary. So DON'T do that. Sometimes you get flooded anyway, just doing the work. I think is stinks that we have to go throught the trauma twice, first for real and the second time with feelings. I'm still shocked at how in the moment it can feel, like it just happened. Frozen feelings that thaw are painfully fresh again.
The other thing my therapist likes to say is, "the psyche has its own timeline." You don't just get to choose when this stuff pushes its way into your life. You can choose to ignore it, or act out in a different way, but it's there, in some way, shape or form. So don't beat yourself up for opening pandora's box if you find things harder or you are distracted for awhile. I think we all sometimes think, "if I hadn't started therapy, I wouldn't feel like this." It is so easy to forget why we were driven to therapy in the first place.
I'm liking your new therapist more and more. They all blunder once in awhile, but it sounds like he'll own it and work through it with you. :)
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