Posted by daisym on September 10, 2005, at 0:06:25
In reply to Re: Talking about sex (again!) » daisym, posted by fairywings on September 9, 2005, at 22:41:47
When I first met him I was surprised by how "normal" he looked. I don't know what exactly I was expecting. I thought he was about my age, but he is 10 years older. He isn't a big man, he's about 5'8" or 9" with a medium build. He has dark hair and brown eyes and a small beard, not a goatee but close...I think the facial hair threw me at first, too Freudian. But I thought he was cute, and he was dressed casual but nice. But I didn't think "wow, he's hot" either.
I don't know if I ever had a type -- I met my husband when I was 18. But in high school I was drawn to guys with great voices and my therapist has a GREAT voice. (Not as good as Fallsfall's, no English accent, but still.) And he is a smart a** and so am I. We agree that humor is the last bastion of sanity. :) I think he is the kind of guy I was always friends with, interested in politics, he reads, likes the theater, enjoys word plays and jokes, etc. But I dated either jocks or bad boys. And not very many of those.
There are lots of reasons I chose him as my therapist, none of them were based on the kind of therapy I expected because I didn't know what to expect. Mostly I liked that he was honest, made no promises about what would happen or how long it would take and when I would say "I want to just push through this or that" he would almost always answer, "but I don't work like that."
I didn't expect to ever be attracted to him, I just don't do that with anyone. And being the arrogant person that I am, I felt I could keep it together and NOT be one of THOSE therapy patients...I'd do it better and quicker than most people and impress the hell out of him. I now laugh at myself.
He definately worked at getting me connected to him. He made himself available and brought my feelings about therapy and then him, into the room. He often referred to my feelings as fragile shoots in the sidewalk, easily stepped on and crushed. That doesn't mean he was seductive, he just very slowly over two years helped me feel and express my attachment. And made it OK. The attachment shocks me more than the attraction. I'm not sure why yet. I still feel like a cliche.
OK, I spilled. Now, what was your initial impression of your therapist?
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