Posted by Daisym on June 5, 2005, at 19:02:17
In reply to Push Pull (slight si trigger), posted by littleone on June 4, 2005, at 19:55:41
I think some therapists prefer patient because it goes with healing...vs. client which tends to sound a bit more business like. Mine uses patient, I use client.
For me the push/pull happens because being cared for is so loaded. I *want* him to care -- but what is the price of that caring? I *want* to believe he won't hurt me, but that hasn't been my past experience. I *want* to let myself accept his caring unconditionally, but I don't trust myself.
My therapist is very fond of saying that undoing those lessons takes a long time. You didn't get this way overnight and you can't just undo it by sheer intellect and will in a few weeks or even years.
I think while it is crazy making for us, they are very used to it and don't take it personally. It is part of the process of trusting.
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