Posted by pinkeye on May 26, 2005, at 15:14:33
In reply to confusion about therapy, posted by sunny10 on May 26, 2005, at 15:05:10
There is no way to simply let go of things. OR simply change a pattern OR simply learn to be happy.
There is no use in telling a person to learn all these. It is like asking a person why you simply cannot be a rocket scientist? With logical things, people understand that it takes time and effort and patience to become something you want - like make more money or get a career. But emotionally the answer is almost always - simply be happy, simply don't worry, simply be positive, simply don't catastrophize. IT does not work.
But the thing that does work is talk about some things or write about some things again and again and again. And to learn real coping techniques - like how to effectively distract yourself, and practice it repeatedly. Some of the CBT books are helpful. Practice distracting yourslef, practice learning to question your negative pattern of thinking, practice consciously how to view the world in a right approach.
And write here in babble - there are very good people here with lot of insights. When the same thing is said in different ways by many people, usually something strikes in our mind and we seem to be able to learn.
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