Posted by pinkeye on May 25, 2005, at 22:46:28
In reply to Re: Help me get closure with my ex - T?, posted by Jazzed on May 25, 2005, at 22:35:22
Thanks. Don't worry about the post. You did end up putting lot of sense in me.
I realized that I am never going to get closure from my ex T. It is just not soemthing which I can expect.
And I didn't have a very intimate relationship or anything. I obviously was projecting everything on to him, because of my wrong thinking. And he doesn't have any part in all this. He would have forgotten me by now, and I really don't want to feel bad about him. He did his job.
Only because of my transference and all these confusions I am so feeling bad. Maybe if I had a clearer view of myself and been able to understand myself better before, I probably would have remained distant myself. I was relating like a kid, like an adult all possible combinations and permutations and I was just drawing all these paintings on him and making him wear different faces and just using that to grow up myself. I did it without knowing, but that is what I ended up doing. And I am feeling bad now, and that is what is the expected outcome of therapy anyway. This is expected when you have transference I guess. I just have to accept it. And your post finally made me do it. So don't feel bad.
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