Posted by JenStar on May 25, 2005, at 19:03:40
In reply to Therapy can be so humbling:(, posted by happyflower on May 25, 2005, at 12:33:36
Well, first of all, you do NOT "totally suck!" I think it's courageous to face criticism and take it in. Many people just go into total denial and don't use constructive criticism to improve.
That being said, I agree that it's no fun to get criticism, no matter how well-intended or helpful! I always feel like I'm lame and loser-like and that I should have already figured out how to fix the things I was doing wrong. And then I panic and figure everyone hates me and is just not saying it. And then I get over it and internalize the criticism and try to improve whatever was broken. But it's a difficult cycle and hard to do...
I give you lots of credit for taking the criticism and trying to use it! I think that is very cool and very non-sucky. :)
Hopefully your T can give you pointers on how to let your liking of people show more. Maybe you're just on guard all the time, putting up fences to protect yourself from potential hurt? I think a lot of people use sarcasm & humor to protect themselves. But if you like people a lot, it should be relatively easy to let that show too. :)
JenStar
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