Posted by Pfinstegg on May 24, 2005, at 19:41:43
In reply to Re: Oh, I meant to add » Pfinstegg, posted by Dinah on May 24, 2005, at 10:47:24
That's fascinating, Dinah! I mean, first, that you feel really able to work hard in therapy now, after ten years and your father's death, and second, that there's a part of you that wants to look at him.
Thinking back to Allen Schore, he talked a lot about how much of our right hemispheres are used for gaze-and about the centrality of its role in evaluating our sense of safety with other people from one millisecond to the next. We (analyst and I) changed our way of being with one another after learning this. We always allow sitting-up time now; sometimes looking at him is easy and natural, but often it's very frightening. Exploring the fear is our way into most sessions. I don't lie down unless I am connected and comfortable. But then I might feel I need to sit up again right away- or I might stay lying down, very connected and be able to explore my thoughts and feelings deeply and safely. It can all change in an instant.
New things seem to be happening for you! You know what my vote would be- three times a week when you can.
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