Posted by pinkeye on May 24, 2005, at 17:03:36
In reply to Re: Emotional nurturing of ourselves » pinkeye, posted by messadivoce on May 24, 2005, at 16:48:48
Actually I thought my husband was exactly opposite of my father. But maybe they have some similarities - possibly related to the culture.
My husband believes in everything opposite to my father. And my husband is lot more emotional person compared to my father.
But both of them expect me to be listening to what they say and not go against them. That is probably the similarity. Even though both of them say that I have full freedom, they end up getting enormously agitated and restless if I don't agree to what they think. And maybe it is a cultural thing. In my culture, I think every man believes the same - that women have to standby men's ideas.
And I think lots of reasons why I have conflict is several times, I do know more than my father or my husband - because I read a lot and actively try to understand things and never take extreme stance on anything. I am mostly more reasonable than both of them and try to be very flexible. But they both find it difficult to accept my stance.
I never try to boss my husband or my father. In fact I really try to give in as much respect as possible to both of them and see the good things in them and be affectionate etc. But they are both very adamant in their beliefs, and sometimes both of them are really extremely stupid. And I can't help but point out the mistakes. I am very guarded in my behaviour and don't want to be arrogant and self-righteous, but sometimes it is just impossible to be silent when they are both plain wrong.
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