Posted by 64bowtie on May 23, 2005, at 1:49:31
In reply to Re: Self Modality » 64bowtie, posted by Dinah on May 22, 2005, at 20:22:23
> Change always means loss, Rod.
<<< » Dinah » judging from Babble reactions to my posts in the recent past, I don't dare say or do anything to disagree... I might get a PBC... I suspect you may have misunderstood the timber and intent of my comment... I hope... at least...
100% of the professionals, school teachers, employment couselors, ministers, University Professors, musicians, and even a couple of ex-convicts I have shared my thoughts with, are startled that anyone would grieve a loss as a result of simple change. Grieving a death as a change is obviously a different matter.
They all agree that anyone they know with an affective disorder seems to fall into the trap of seeking certainty, and that simple change seems an assault on certainty. Change, however, brings vibrant new and exciting results. Change is exciting to adults who accept their adulthood, I find to be so... sorta...
I got the clues for self-directed recovery from "The Road Less Traveled" by M. Scott Peck. After 30 plus years working with clients, he assures the reader that no change can come from the therapist, the 'mechanic' the client hires to fix them. Change is inevitable as well as the results are uncertain.
Our courage will carry us across the threshholds that our 'dependency-objects' no longer can, nor should, since we are all now adults.
Rod
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