Posted by 64bowtie on May 22, 2005, at 14:20:23
Since and because I stopped by Babble a year and a half ago, I now know what to say and how to say it. I know now the beginning, middle, and the end of the story. The difference is that I used to be messy at my life before, and now see my way clearly, clearly enough to dedicate my life to helping others to see clearly.
With freedom and happiness as the end game, I can now show and suggest dramatic changes to those in the throws of affective despair. I mean significant freedom and happiness, not just someone's knee-jerk opinion of freedom and happiness as “carefree-comfort” might be.
I suggest we stop behavior, feelings and motives long enough to discover which ones are our own. Equally important is to identify which behaviors, feelings and motives are really of any value to our lives. We can then salvage those elements that belong to us and are useful in our lives. The rest we simply let go of.
Change does not mean loss! We don't loose anything by giving up what/who isn't ours and/or what/who isn’t useful to us. The moment we discover that we have time free of struggle and free of upsetness and conflict, we may take an un-hurried/un-harried look into our mirror, allowing us to find our unattenuated self looking back. At this point, the living of a life we so long for may begin.
Rod
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