Posted by sunny10 on April 18, 2005, at 9:17:52
In reply to What're your parents like?, posted by Susan47 on April 17, 2005, at 12:57:52
my biological father was engaged to my mother and broke the engagement when he found out she was pregnant with me- she already had two kids from a prior marriage.
Classic father abandonment- I've never met the man. My mother went to an abortion clinic to get rid of me but my great-aunt stopped her from going through with it. My mother resented me every day of my childhood. We don't speak now.
I had a broken arm when I was six months old that supposedly I broke myself "having a temper tantrum" says mom- there were no witnesses.
My mother remarried when I was nine (met him when I was seven). He legally adopted all three of us kids. We thought it was great, until he started hitting my sister and me.
So, hmmm. abandonment, emotional neglect/hatred, and physical abuse.
That's my parents...
And, stupid me, even after 20+ yrs of off and on again therapy, that's who every SO has turned out to be, too...
Rocket science, yes??!!?? So why can't therapists actually help me to not "pick these people to try to get them to love me because my parents didn't" ??? Coping skills don't work, 'cause I still feel like a piece of sh*t that should have been aborted after all....
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