Posted by PM80 on April 15, 2005, at 7:39:17
In reply to Help, need advice from you guys!!, posted by LauraG on April 13, 2005, at 22:30:03
It sounds like your T has some issues of her own here. To me, this kinda has two parts. Given that she already knew how important your dog was to you since you had discussed it in individual sessions, this probably should have been considered a reason to miss - if not, it should have been made clear to you when you first told her that you were not going to attend. It is possible that it was an honest miscommunication on both parts - did she lay out what were and what were not exceptable excuses? Maybe she thought she was clear and you genuinely misunderstood what she said. Second, and this would be a MUCH bigger deal to me, why would she think you were trying to save up brownie points for a later excuse? That doesn't even make sense. Either she herself is a very manipulative person so she assumes that you (and everyone else in the world) are, or, well, she has some baggage or something. It just struck me as weird and NOT at all a theraputically healthy idea from your T. Why would she assume the worst of your behavior? If this part bothers you as much as it would me, I would definitely bring this part up and tell her how it made you felt - leaving the whole money thing completely out of it.
Sorry you had this experience; it does suck.
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