Posted by annierose on April 14, 2005, at 19:22:01
In reply to Re: Band-aide anyone for a bruised ego?, posted by Shortelise on April 14, 2005, at 16:43:00
Shortelise, Party Cloudy and Kather -
Thanks for your replies. I really appreciate coming back from shuttling my kids to and from soccer practice to some sound babble advice.ShortE - I think you have given me lots of things to ponder. I did think during all the "motor" noise, that she wasn't her usual kind self. Normally if I tell her I'm uncomfortable (too loud, too hot, too cold, etc.) she goes out of her way to make me feel more cozy. But she sat there and said nothing. And I thought to myself, I wonder if she is having a bad day. I thought that within 5 minutes of being there.
I see her 3 times a week, so I know her pretty well. The session went downhill from there, when I talked about the middleschool conference. Looking back, I wish I did ask her, "are you having a bad day?". Instead I kept telling her that I felt agitated and judged.
I do think that the relationship with the therapist, is the main part of therapy. I agree with you 100%. We'll need to trudge through this session and understand each other's perspective and how and why I felt criticized.
To answer pc and kp: I do feel my T understands me. I like her very much. We have worked together twice. 20 years ago for 4+ years, and recently, just over a year. We can complete each other sentences sometimes and I do feel a connection with her.
BUT ... I must admit a part of me is scared. I don't feel quite as comfortable. I normally lie down, but will probably sit next Monday. I'll need to see her to feel sure of her again. Non-verbal cues can be so important and are missed when I am lieing down.
I hope I can let this go and enjoy the weekend. I'll need a solid night of sleep!!
-Annierose
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