Posted by sunny10 on March 17, 2005, at 10:31:30
In reply to Re: A form of dissociation I hate. I'm so weird., posted by Dinah on March 17, 2005, at 10:10:08
your "refusal to encode" in order to disallow any memory of your anger is causing you to "bury the anger" instead of experiencing it, relaxing into it (accepting it), discharging it, and reacting to it.
If you continue to bury those feelings, you are in effect burying HIM from your idea of acceptable existence as part of your life- thus the disassociation.
Or, at least that's what I've been reading in "How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together", by Susan Page.....
The author refers to ANY type of relationship, it doesn't have to be a marriage...
She talks quite a bit about anger and what happens to those of us who "stuff it" deep inside-whether it's because we can't deal with what we think the consequences of our anger might be- or whether we are too busy, but never get around to dealing with it, somehow.
End results are the same... either you explode (like me) or you disassociate (like you)... Hmmm, maybe I shouldn't say you are the disassociater of the two of us- I have "disowned" my own mother and refuse to think about her in emotional terms.
I guess I'm capable of doing that, too....
Obviously I am doing some "anger work" right now, so this colors how I took your post.
Hope I'm not out of line....
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