Posted by Tamar on March 11, 2005, at 18:38:52
In reply to Re: Resurfacing of old hurts » pinkeye, posted by pinkeye on March 11, 2005, at 16:56:33
> I feel like such a monster to blame my father. He did the best he could and I could have been more responsible, and I could have learnt things differently.
That's a horrible feeling, isn't it? We hate to blame our parents for their mistakes. But even if you feel he did the best he could, you also did the best you could. How could you have learned things differently? You were a child. Even at 16 or 17 you were still a child. You weren't responsible, even if you wish you could have been.
I think you are probably in a much better situation now that you have a T who doesn't know your parents. You can be as open as you can possibly be, with your T and with yourself.
I'm sorry it hurts so much.
Tamar
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