Posted by shortelise on October 4, 2004, at 0:47:42
In reply to Re: Help! I don't understand my T - TO ALL, posted by Speaker on October 3, 2004, at 20:37:31
Sorry, speaker, it was hard for me to tell that you are relating what happened in your sessions, not just what happened in your head.
Then no, I don't think you are making too much of it. And I don't understand this power struggle the two of you are having over this video. It seems to me that it is part of his "job description" to watch this video. Is it maybe his way of reaching a compromise that he insists on watchin it during your session?
I just don't get that. I think that one of the reasons they charge so much per session is because the work they do with us in not always limited to that amount of time, that they have to write, to think, to make contacts sometimes, and do research sometimes. Psychotherapy is not something that happens for either the shrink or the shrunken in fifty minute intervals.
To say that he wants to watch it during your session time so he'd be paid for caring, or however he said it, well, that is very unpleasant.
I don't know you or your circumstances very well, and maybe there is sense to this treatment. Maybe you push the limits of the therapeutic relationship to a point where he feels the needs to insist strongly on these boundaries.
If my T said this to me, I'd never see him again, and would need therapy to get over it. It would traumatize me. It would break my heart. I would cry and cry and cry.
If he explained it to me, explained it in a way I could understand, I would - presuming his explanation was one that I could accept - probably be ok with it. But any mention of getting paid for the time he spends caring for me and I would bolt.
I don't understand your T either.
I hope I've addressed your request for insight a little more to the point this time, Speaker.
ShortE
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