Posted by crushedout on January 13, 2004, at 17:00:45
In reply to Re: Is this Transference?, posted by Dinah on January 11, 2004, at 8:36:49
> > I wish she would bring it up...I guess she is waiting for me to?!!
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> My therapist has this pesky assumption that I should be in charge of my own therapy. It annoys me no end. :) But he would almost certainly wait for me to bring it up. Maybe a leading question or two, but no more than that.That's funny: mine has that same pesky assumption. Actually, before I confessed my love for her, she used to ask me questions that I thought were trying to get at my transference (but maybe I was just being paranoid). Like, I would say I wanted to get a tan so that I would be more attractive and she would ask, "Who are you trying to be attractive for?" and I would look at her sideways and sheepishly and get all nervous, and be like, "oh, i dunno. no one in particular, i guess."
See, that would have been a good opening for me to bring it up but I always got too embarrassed to admit it to her. I still have trouble saying stuff like that to her face now, even though she basically knows everything.
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