Posted by Dinah on July 14, 2003, at 20:21:43
In reply to can't seem to get rid of my feelings for therapist, posted by pinkeye on July 14, 2003, at 19:51:59
Knowledge rarely does help feelings. But talking frequently does. That's why we go see the darn therapists to begin with. Do you think it might be time to take the plunge and mention your feelings? Others have done it in the past, and most have found that their therapists have the professionalism and sensitivity to handle it tactfully. It's not an unusual thing, and I'm sure your therapist has dealt with it before.
You probably won't get what you think you want from him. (I certainly hope not - that would be horrendously unethical of him). But maybe you will be able to get what you need from him. An uncritical acceptance of this, like any of your other feelings for him.
It took a lot of trust and courage for me to mention my own transference to my therapist (a maternal one). But I swear that when it became less of a shameful secret, it also became less painful.
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