Posted by namesake on December 9, 2002, at 11:26:46
In reply to Re: Crushes on therapists » namesake, posted by judy1 on December 5, 2002, at 11:29:13
All of these posts have been quite interesting to me. Some of my thoughts are these...Dinah, I like the thought of the "box" and "keep it in a special place in your heart", that helps. Eddie, why do you think that I would leave my family, or marriage, for this so-called relationship, should it happen?I'm not thinking that way. Is it not possible to have a relationship with another person, for different reasons than you have with your spouse, and state that up front, set those boundries?...Actually, I have been married for almost 2 decades, and my husband has given me space, inliew of a divorce, which I wanted. That was the same time that I met the crush.(So coincidental, Ha!)....Jickstress, yes, of course I know that this person has qualities that my spouse lacks! Namely, someone who cares to take the time to listen to others, and not "react" in a fury. That would be true of most therapists, don't you think? (Maybe I'm naive) As for "throwing myself at him",in reality I would more be inclined to sit there immobilized, and not be able to think of anything to say.Actually, I have only had long term relationships with female therapists. I almost wonder whether I should conquer my fears of not trusting men....one of my issues, since childhood, and seek such an encounter...To Alan and Judy, I can imagine things getting "mucked-up" b/n such a personal encounter as therapy, between a male and female. The thought of that makes me want to scream, "WHO DO THESE SHRINKS THINK THEY ARE, ANYWAY ? do they think that they are above human urges ?" God! the whole idea of it nauseates me.....Thank you for letting me go off on this.
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