Posted by Eddie Sylvano on October 16, 2002, at 16:59:38
In reply to What Am I Doing Wrong? - I Turn People Off, posted by WorryGirl on October 16, 2002, at 14:17:21
> Sometimes it's as though people take one look at me and seem to read me as a "loser". On more than one occasion I have entered a new situation where I felt so alone and ostracized because when I tried to be friendly I was rebuffed and ignored. It hurts!
--------------------------I totally understand you. I'm the kind of person that can say something in a group, get no attention, then watch as someone else says the exact same thing and gets lauded as a genius. For most of my life, I've felt like I'm not real, especially around women. It's like I'm so far away from the qualities they want in a man that I'm not even considered a possibility. Guys don't have much use for me either, for that matter. I'm just not on the same page as everyone else.
This bothered me for a long time, but I'm coming to appreciate the fact that if people don't want to be around me, they're probably just not right for me, and it makes life easier. I also came to realize that when people do talk to me, I find that I don't really want to talk to them as much as I thought I did. I like the idea of having lots of friends, but I don't really enjoy the experience. It's a lot of work to keep up scores of social ties. Maybe I'm just really picky. I prefer a couple of good friends to a lot of aquaintances.
The key, I think, is to just be yourself. Be happy with yourself and open with other people, and the right kind of people will catch on. It's their loss otherwise.
poster:Eddie Sylvano
thread:1309
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