Posted by henrietta on December 14, 2004, at 19:58:56
In reply to Re: The other side, posted by MKB on December 14, 2004, at 11:14:47
i am a heterosexual in a monogamous marriage for over 30 years. no infidelidty on either side no f$$$ing of animals children or monks. for the life of me i can't understand how the sanctification of commitment, love, and life-sharing of two consenting adults threatens my marriage, yours,or whatever is meant by "the institution". Can you please explain to me how it is a bad thing for people who love one another and want to share their lives, want to make a COMMITMENT (aren't we constantly told that commitment is a difficult and valuable thing?), to be allowed to make that morally valued choice? I'm not being sarcastic, argumentative, or political, here. I truly don't understand why people are so threatened by this. Love and acceptance are so hard to find in the world that I think we should open our arms and hearts to anyone fortunate enough to find these gifts. Their consequent well-being can only add to the well-being of the cosmos, to the dimunition of war, hatred, anger, and to graciousness in your grocery store line .
And, on an even more practical note: Do you realize that two people who have loved each other for 20-30-40 years, who have taken care of one another, who know one another deeply, know each other's every desire, can be separated at crisis time, in the hospital, dying, by parents they haven't seen since adolescence? By parents , even, who have abused them emotionally, physically? That the beloved partner can be denied access to the hospital room while the parents, not seen or heard from in decades, are allowed free reign over life and death decisions, regardless of the dying one's wishes?
I am trying very hard to understand how this stance is "moral", or has anything to do with the teachings of christ. Please enlighten me.
thank you.
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