Posted by zenhussy on December 25, 2003, at 2:43:04
In reply to Re: It does not grow easier each year.... » zenhussy, posted by judy1 on December 21, 2003, at 11:59:12
>you're absolutely right, it doesn't get easier. I think the presence of issues have prevented me from going through the process of grieving also. My therp says anniveries of his death and holidays are particularly difficult as you have already found out. does your brother have the same feelings towards your father? is that why his presence helps you?
take care, judyJudy,
firstly, I have to giggle imagining you doing yoga with wonderfully chunky (as a growing child needs to be!) G standing on your stomach or just crawling all over you in general. That is a funny image. Probably not quite the best reality for yoga but sounds delightful for the spirit.
My brother grieved my father's death with my mum years ago. Back when he died. I'm sure my brother has his own issues somewhere but nothing like the complete shutdown of grieving I did as a child. It was noticed by all adults around me. I shifted. Somehow the loss of a parent was too great for me to bear.
Pops has nothing to do with my other traumas other than just predisposing me to unhealthy coping mechanisms. But I can't blame him for dying now can I?
I wish you a peaceful holiday with your family and send some holiday cheer to those who lost their homes in the fires near you.
zh
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