Posted by Dr. Bob on August 12, 2014, at 0:38:49
In reply to Re: The Hsiung-Twinleaf discussion, posted by Twinleaf on August 11, 2014, at 7:41:47
> You seem to have shifted the focus away from my distress about the communication failure which apparently contributed to Dinah's leaving towards a focus on interpreting Dinah's own communication style.
Yes, I shifted the focus from your distress. I shifted it to your uncivil communication style.
You posted earlier that:
> I find it distressing that you quote Dinah on civility
I wondered if you had read what I "quoted", her nice post on I-statements:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20040112/msgs/320097.html
Please read it. You may learn something about I-statements. Using a phrase such as "give the impression" does not make a you-statement an I-statement.
I wonder if you have read the FAQ:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
Please read it: You may learn something about I-statements. Using a phrase such as "I feel" does not make a you-statement an I-statement. In the FAQ, I give the example:
"I feel Dr. Bob has gone overboard"
In my post to you, I gave a similar example with a phrase you used:
"Dr. Bob gives the impression of having gone overboard"
That was an example of a you-statement worded as an I-statement. Dinah did not post it. I was not focusing on Dinah's communication style. I was focusing on your communication style. You communication style was uncivil.
I hope this post is more clear.
Bob
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