Posted by Twinleaf on August 11, 2014, at 7:41:47
In reply to Re: The Hsiung-Twinleaf discussion, posted by Dr. Bob on August 11, 2014, at 2:38:18
You appear to me to be demonstrating the type of communication style which I felt viewers might react negatively to:.changing the topic slightly and then only responding to the changed version.
It seemed to me that Dinah left, because at a time of immense personal stress over the sudden loss of her therapist of 20 yearss, she did not feel that she found the understanding and support that she hoped for here. I said that I found it distressing to see her mentioned in a thread whose topic was that very thing - communication failure as it appears to me on this board. I don't know whether Dinah's message was an "I- message" or not; it certainly could have been. You seem to have shifted the focus away from my distress about the communication failure which apparently contributed to Dinah's leaving towards a focus on interpreting Dinah's own communication style. Now there are two areas of communicative stress between you and me, where before there was only one.
Returning to my own communication to you, I emphasized that my impressions weren't, and never could be, judgements of you. I do not know you, but I assume that your intent is to be helpful., and to communicate in a skillful manner which relieves misunderstandings. However, I do feel that altering the topic, even slightly, unfortunately leads to more misunderstandings, rather than less.
If I am correct in my basic positive assumptions about your constructive intentions, how about responding directly to the real concerns that I have expressed?
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