Posted by wittgensteinz on January 24, 2009, at 5:45:56
In reply to Blocked for four weeks » twinleaf, posted by Deputy Dinah on January 21, 2009, at 14:08:23
I can see how Twinleaf's comments regarding Gardenergirl's post could have led her to feel put down, but that said, I can also see how GG's suggestion that Twinleaf has 'cognitive distortions' could also be upsetting/offensive to Twinleaf, but there was no recognotion of this at the time from the deputies, and I can see how Twinleaf might have felt victimised as a result and had a need for this to be recognised.
There are situations where using the notification button just doesn't seem appropriate or enough. I can think of a personal example where a poster posted two upsetting posts in quick succession. He was blocked for the first post. The second post, directed at me left me feeling very upset but because he had already been blocked for his first post there was no recognition for his behaviour in the second. In these situations, the person at the receiving end can get the feeling "well it's ok if someone says that to me but not if they say something like that to someone else". I can see a similar situation arising if someone is blocked and shortly afterwards receives a comment from antoher poster that they take to be offensive.
It is no secret that GG is a mental health professional and therefore any suggestions she does make regarding a person's mental health might be taken with more authority by the community and the recipient than if someone was simply going by personal experience and sharing about what benefitted them personally. It is one thing to give advice and make suggestions regarding what a person should be working on in terms of their mental health if that advice is asked for, but in the context, it would seem this advice had the effect of undermining or invalidating the concerns that Twinleaf was expressing.
My worry now is that this experience will put Twinleaf off from ever returning to Babble and that would be a great loss for the community here.
Witti
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