Posted by Fallen4MyT on January 22, 2007, at 17:54:12
In reply to Re: 'I' statements » Fallen4MyT, posted by All Done on January 21, 2007, at 22:25:01
Thank you Laurie you're always so nice to me...I do see what you are saying in your examples however I do not see it as it pertains to my post. I cannot seem to see how mt post was not civil. I am not sure it was not civil to be honest..THANKS
> Fallen,
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> I guess I just want to say that adding "I feel" to the beginning of a sentence does not necessarily make it an acceptable "I" statement under Dr. Bob's civility guidelines.
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> For example, can you see the difference between the two statements:
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> I feel Poster X was hurtful to me.
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> I feel hurt by Poster X's words.
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> The first statement is in effect calling Poster X a hurtful person. The second statement refers to *my* reaction to whatever Poster X wrote.
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> I don't know if this helps at all, but it's my understanding of "I" statements and how Dr. Bob might like to see them, FWIW.
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> Laurie
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> > Oh you are so right Dinah . How should I have put it so that YOU would not issue a PBC? Are you`feeling putdown or accused? I am so sorry.
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> > As I DID just state how I FEEL based in HFs statements that that is how she felt YES I will ask Dr Bob to look this over...But thank you so much for pointing this out.
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