Posted by Deneb on March 31, 2006, at 11:23:17
In reply to Re: How come I never get warnings, only blocks?, posted by special_k on March 30, 2006, at 23:58:01
> Okay. So I have been struggling a lot but I shall try.
Are you okay?
> I don't know whether there is different treatment or not... I don't know. I think he probably does his best to be fair.I hope you're right about that.
> I think that context sensitivity should come into it.
Context sensitivity bothers me. I like to think that Dr. Bob is simply the enforcer of the rules, that he has no say in the matter. I like to think that the rules are black and white and Dr. Bob has no choice when it comes to blocks.
> But when rules are changed (like reduced blockings etc) then I think that should be made explicit and there should (at least) be an attempt to explain how things are going to go from that point on.
Me too.
> And I don't understand whether that signifies more leniency for other posters in a similar situation or what.I would like to know what the situation was.
> > I can't handle the thought of Dr. Bob thinking he should go easier on some posters because they are more helpful than other posters.
>
> Well. I don't know how others feel about this... But... The point of the boards is support and education. Of one another. I think that people who seem to really grasp that and really help others... Well...Some people aren't so good at supporting others. I want them to feel like they matter too.
> Maybe it is about reinforcing appropriate behaviour.
I don't like the idea of that at all. Rules should apply to everyone equally. I hate thinking that there may be a subset of people here who get special treatment.
> I think he made it pretty clear that he didn't really want you to do the scarf thing... He would have preferred you to have spent your time doing something nice for everyone who was going to the party.
I can still do something nice for everyone. Why can't I do both? I think maybe I don't care that he doesn't want me making him a gift. I'm going to admit to some selfishness here. I'm doing the gift thing to mostly satisfy my own needs. Making the scarf for Bob makes me happy and I don't want to stop doing it.
> Is that at times you say it is a 'small gift'
> Then at times you say how much love you are putting into it which makes it actually a gift that is extremely laden with symbolismIt's only laden with symbolism for me. I just want Bob to see it as a scarf.
> And so what is he supposed to to?
I don't know. He can do whatever he wants to do. I don't control him. I'll find out soon enough what he'll do.
> I think you should talk to your t about this...
I'll try to remember to bring it up.
> But I think maybe he has become... Something along the lines of... How you might have viewed your father when you were a little kid?
Maybe, I don't know.
Deneb
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