Posted by Minnie-Haha on May 25, 2005, at 13:40:30
In reply to Re: Dr Bob: question about being blocked or PBC'd? » Minnie-Haha, posted by alexandra_k on May 24, 2005, at 20:38:09
> > ...but I also felt compelled to address a behavior that makes me and others feel offended.
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> 'makes me'
> There it is again...You are responding to a post I directed to gardengirl. This seems like a matter of semantics to me. If you prefer the choose-to-feel form of expressing yourself, that’s fine, but I hope you won’t insist that I do.
If it’s OK for some to feel offended by one sort of behavior, why must I choose to feel offended by another?
> It is hard NOT to express ones thoughts when one speaks...
Yes, I’d say a big part of our speaking and writing is to express our thoughts – or feelings. My thought processes are rather messy, but I usually don’t try to speak (or write) until I’ve come to what seems *to me* a reasoned conclusion. If I speak or talk before then, I might need to correct myself or apologize later. I might yet have to do so if I express my reasoned conclusion poorly (not carefully). For instance, you yourself apologized for some hurried posts you made to Gabbi and me because you had 5 minutes to get to class. It matters not to me whether the problem was that you regretted your thoughts / conclusion, or simply regretted the way you expressed it. If you can apologize for making a careless post, can’t I? You weren’t careful with what you said (or thought or however you want to put it), and neither was I on the paragraph in question when this saying vs. thinking thing came up.
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