Re: Why are so many people upset

Posted by Dr. Bob on October 27, 2004, at 18:23:27

In reply to Re: Why are so many people upset » Dr. Bob, posted by NikkiT2 on October 27, 2004, at 14:03:39

> But isn't fight or flight mainly a short term phenomenon? An instant decision based on survival instincts?
Usually, but stressful situations can also be longer-term or episodic...
> PBC's or blocks ... probably invoke feelings of being publicly shamed, put in the stocks, or other primeval fears of a member of an affiliative species
Right, and that fear may have been triggered?
> your comments might be more productively directed to more sensitive enforcement of group norms rather than fight/flight.
More sensitive in what way? I thought those norms may have been insufficient...
> addressing the root cause of any flareup on the board might be more productive than commenting on the behavior.
I guess doing both might be best...
> Or suggest alternate ways of dealing with the root causes rather than just pointing out how we *are* dealing with it? We know how we *are* dealing with it. :)
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> Dinah
People may know what they're doing, but not what I consider problematic about it. And you can lead a horse to alternate ways, but...
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> I can only speak for myself here, but it is starting to feel like harrassment.
I know, that's kind of the idea behind the proposed new rule:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20041027/msgs/407882.html
OTOH:
> I want to be able to post my feelings about thing without them being PARAPHRASED and their meaning changed. I think, above everything else, its the paraphrasing that upsets me most. To take a sentence, remove some parts, change a few words subtly, and BANG, you have a WHOLE new meaning.
>
> As an example, I write a post to Noa, which contains the sentance "sometimes I have the feeling that I hate you, but its not a true feeling" it can be copied and bought over here to say that [I hate you] which you have to agree is not what I said..
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> Nikki
Right, but you could just repost what you originally said and link to it and it would be clear to everyone, wouldn't it?
Bob

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Why do Lou Pilder's posts upset so many people? SLS 10/26/04
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Re: Why do Lou Pilder's posts upset so many people? » Mark H. verne 10/26/04
Thank you, Mark H. and Verne (nm) » verne fayeroe 10/26/04
Re: please be civil » Mark H. Dr. Bob 10/27/04
Re: Why are so many people upset Dr. Bob 10/27/04
Re: Why are so many people upset » Dr. Bob fayeroe 10/27/04
Re: Dr. Bob, with all due respect... Dinah 10/27/04
Re: Why do Lou Pilder's posts upset so many people? » SLS Dinah 10/27/04
Re: please be civil » fayeroe Dr. Bob 10/27/04
Re: might have been reading too much Dr. Bob 10/27/04
Re: might not have explained myself well » Dr. Bob Dinah 10/27/04
Re: Why are so many people upset » Dr. Bob NikkiT2 10/27/04
Re: I know it sounds simple, but » Dinah AuntieMel 10/27/04
Re: Why are so many people upset Dr. Bob 10/27/04
Re: Why are so many people upset » Dr. Bob Noa 10/27/04
Re: Why are so many people upset Dr. Bob 10/27/04
Re: Why are so many people upset » Dr. Bob Dinah 10/27/04
Re: Why are so many people upset Dr. Bob 10/27/04
Re: No thanks, Dr. Bob Dinah 10/27/04
Re: Why do Lou Pilder's posts upset so many people? Mark H. 10/28/04
Re: Why are so many people upset » Dr. Bob Mark H. 10/29/04
Re: My indebtedness to others, especially Dinah Mark H. 10/29/04
Excellent Example! (nm) » NikkiT2 Shar 10/29/04
Re: Why are so many people upset Dr. Bob 10/30/04
:-) (nm) » Mark H. Dinah 10/30/04
Re: Why are so many people upset » Dr. Bob Dinah 10/30/04
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Re: P.S. - my suggestion » AuntieMel Lou Pilder 11/2/04

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