Posted by AuntieMel on August 20, 2004, at 23:54:31
In reply to being civil, posted by fires on August 20, 2004, at 18:44:24
A step in the right direction. But a safeer way is not to use the word 'you' in the sentence at all. That is the part that can sound accusitory.
I felt hurt (offended, attacked, etc) when I read that.
This leaves open the possibility that how it is read isn't how it's intended.
It's a bit of (see thread above) cognitive gymnastics, it never hurts to err on the side of friendliness.
Sorry to keep butting in...
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