Posted by spoc on June 26, 2004, at 22:42:55
In reply to Re: A suggestion » spoc, posted by Dinah on June 26, 2004, at 22:27:40
> I'm genuinely curious, as I wonder how different people perceive the same thing.
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> Intellectually, I knew, and know, that Dr. Bob doesn't mean any harm by it. But on a gut level, how did it *feel* to hear directed towards you?<<<<< Oh, at the time and being newer, I was "certain" he was hinting that perhaps I didn't fit in. Maybe for my own sake, maybe for (worse) the sake of others. It didn't feel good at all (but I admit it's not unusual for me to perceive things that way). Anyway, after that I did notice the statement in other places where the poster wasn't being "bad," so I could see it as not having been personal. (I think! Oh my... :)
But I agree it could be worded more softly/tactfully.
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