Posted by Noa on February 6, 2001, at 8:41:31
In reply to Re: Hasta la vista ** You forgot '...,baby'! » kazoo, posted by R.Anne on February 5, 2001, at 23:11:17
I am sorry if anyone has felt unwelcome. I am not really aware of what happened between Anne and James.
As for a "popular clique": I know it is always the case that so-called popular kids don't feel there are any "popular cliques", BUT, this place is definitely a mobil society.
None of us came here as part of any "in crowd". We all came as individuals, many of us as individuals who were suffering in our loneliness and anguish.
By sticking around and responding to posts, you begin to get to know people. In the beginning it can be hard to get over shy feelings, just like in real life.
But if you hang out for a while and support others, they begin to support you, too, and you get to know them better.
I am not at all aware of any conscious intentions to keep an "in" group going or exclude anyone from being part of what goes on here, except in cases where someone is highly antagonistic repeatedly and under many different assumed names.
But if you have a conflict with one long-standing member of this board, please don't assume that you are somehow excluded by other "oldtimers".
I have gotten to know many different people here and don't have in my mind a "list" of who is "in" and who is "out". I think to the extent that anyone feels that, it may be baggage they are bringing with them to this board.
If you hang out for a while, you too, will become considered a "regular", and people will look at you as somehow part of an "in" crowd. That will be their perception.
I am sorry you are unhappy here. I hope you will reconsider and stay, but if you do go, I wish you the best. Take good care of yourself, either way.
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