Posted by Cam W. on February 1, 2001, at 23:16:20
In reply to Re: I leaving....Bye ! » stjames, posted by shellie on February 1, 2001, at 20:32:03
... you felt the need to bring a few people down before you left. I think it would have shown a lot more class on your part...
Shellie - I believe that your remarks spoke volumes about the metamorphosis of this website, especially over the last year. In a few sentences it summed up James' decision to leave and a few of the reason behind his actions.
I do not understand America's obsession with political correctness. If more people spoke their minds', instead of obscuring their feelings and opinions to the point of incomprehensibility, I believe that more situations would be better understood and fewer misunderstandings would occur.
In this case, James was registering his frustration over the changes that have occurred on this board recently. He succinctly stated his reasons for leaving, rather than leaving us to guess who had caused him his discomfort and why. I don't think he felt an obligation to do this; but did it out of respect for those of us he is leaving behind.
The people he referred to were not "brought down" by his naming them, nor by stating their perceived transgressions, but James explained to them and us just how they truly made him feel through their actions and words. This is not to say that these people's actions and words were any less valid than James' perception of them. They were differing opinions of a set of events. Kazoo even reiterated this. He was not offended by James' remarks, but accepted them. At the same time Kazoo did not retract what he had said, nor he should have to, being that his perception of the event is as valid as James'. No fault, no blame, just two adults stating their case.
I sincerely doubt that Kazoo or R.Anne were James' main reason for leaving. They were just two examples of the change that has occurred on this website over the past year. I believe that I know James well enough to say that these 2 people were not meant to be scapegoats for his leaving, but, as I have stated, examples of the changes.
These changes have occurred because of the popularity of the site and the larger readership and posters (and probably several other valid considerations). Many good people have become aware of the merits of this website and have joined in discussions, offered treatment theories, and learned by "ghosting" (as one person I know calls lurking. Rik reads regularily, but feels he does not have the skills to participate in the discussions - you're wrong buddy, you have a lot that you could contribute, for you are one astute character). Along with increased popularity come the inevitable egoists, proselytizers, those with agendas, those who aim to disrupt or hurt others, flamers and frauds. These cannot be easily stopped, but Dr.Bob does manage to keep most of them out.
IMHO - James has far more class than I ever expect to have. Sincerely - Cam
P.S. Shellie, I am not saying that your perception of James' post is wrong, but it is your perception and not mine. That, we can agree upon. - Cam
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