Posted by recumbent on October 8, 2003, at 19:04:21
This may be lengthy, so I will apologise up front. My father is in need of med advice. It is unlikely that he will get the advice where he lives in Tennessee. His behavior stresses our family to the limits. I will describe him the best I can to help anyone who can offer helpful advice.
My Dad is 73 and retired. He likely has an inferiority complex (has a fifth grade education), but wouldn't admit it other then to convict me of calling him stupid. He has very low blood pressure, but is wired like he owns Starbucks. Besides his anxiety, he is selfish, vindictive, and compulsive. If I ask him to be more considerate and compassionate to others, he quotes the Bible to me. I would just turn my back on him, but my Mom would suffer. I see Mom as a hostage in the sense that my Dad feels my she should respect and obey his wishes. We argued on the way back from seeing Mom in the hospital and I asked him to do me a favor. I asked him to stop at a church and pray that God teach him to love his wife as he should. We both prayed. I hope that God will answer this prayer.
Even so, this is what I need to do while I am visiting my Dad: (I live in Michigan and am visiting Tennesse until my Mom gets out of the hospital) I would like to get a prescription for Dad. I am on Lexapro and it has done wonders for me. I would like to have Dad calm down and become more considerate, but I can't be sure Lexapro is right for him. Since he has been wired most of my life, it isn't an "old age" thing. I would however like to have him (and my Mom) enjoy old age. Other considerations:
He finds it difficult to forgive.
He gets loud and explosive.
He spends money like a child.
He defends his actions by quoting the bible.
He has a hearing impairment
His hip is worn and bothers him
Again, I am sorry that this is dragging on, But I hope someone can help
Thanx.
poster:recumbent
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