Posted by willie on July 22, 2003, at 7:21:12
In reply to Anyone had success on Effexor XR? , posted by jp on October 24, 1999, at 14:59:14
Good morning Cher. I sure hope the sun is shining in your town today...no more rain for a while. I'm going to be away from my computer for most of the day because of work but I wanted to touch base about you finding a counsellor today.
Please find one that will challenge you to open up and dig down deep. I first went to a phychiatrist but his method of therapy did not work for me. I didn't know how to open up. I was very fortunate to have someone recommend another counsellor to me who knew how to challenge me to dig down deep and uncover things I buried long ago.
Believe me..at first I didn't understand why he was focussing on my childhood when I went for help with my PTSD, I was actually upset that he was not addressing my current problem. He explained he first had to get to where the problem first began.
He used some funky methods (like getting me to write a letter to my father who I hadn't spoken to in 20 years). When I first started writing I didn't know what to say but once I began I ended up with 10 pages of anger and hurt. He then used that letter in our sessions as a basis he could use to help me open up even further. It can be very scary trying to uncover things that you've buried so deep within yourself but once you do it's like you've been released from it.
Mercedes said something in one of her postings, "You may never get over it but you will get through it." I think that is a true statement.
As for the not feeling aspect you are experiencing, I learnt during my sessions that people experience range of emotion (highs and lows). People who are depressed and in the "numb" state don't experience either. They shut off the bad feelings to avoid the pain...the only problem with this is that in order to experience the good emotions, you must also let yourself experience the bad ones. You can't have one without the other. Am I making sense?
Anyway, my thoughts will be with you today and I hope to hear from you. Promise me that if you don't like the Pdoc they give you, find another one who works well for you.
Talk to you later on...Willie
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