Posted by noa on January 8, 2000, at 14:56:28
In reply to Wow! same problem., posted by Janice on January 8, 2000, at 13:18:11
the idea of having some prep time before kids or hubbies come home is a good one. A long time ago when I was a teacher in a day care center, we started encouraging parents to be consistent in their pick-up times or to call us. That way we could give the toddlers a few minutes "warning". A lot of the kids had really bad adjustment problems in that going-home transition, often worse than the morning drop off. I think it is because the parents and we had focused on making the morning separation transition work, but hadn't thought so much about the pick up. Without the prep time, the kids felt interrupted, I think, just not ready to deal with reuniting with parents. Then, what would ensue is what is familiar to many parents, the meltdown, which of course, made the parents feel like dirt. But once we startd preping the kids, and as long as the parents kept a fairly consistent schedule, the transitions were smoother.
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